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Users are concerned about the declining visibility of smaller e-commerce stores in search results, especially with the rise of AI-powered search tools like ChatGPT and Perplexity. They're finding that these tools tend to favor larger brands and marketplaces, potentially leading to a drop in organic traffic and sales for smaller businesses. The discussion explores the need for optimizing for AI discovery and understanding how AI tools interpret and present product information.
"We used to be on the first page of Google for many of our most important keywords. Even though we are a smaller store than other search results. Now we don’t show up there and we don’t show up in LLMs either."
"I tried asking ChatGPT about products in my niche, and most of the recommendations were big brands or huge marketplaces with tons of content. It honestly feels like smaller stores like mine don’t even show up anymore."
Users are frustrated by the increasing shipping costs and the need to find the most cost-effective and reliable shipping options across different carriers, especially with frequent rate changes. They express the need to compare rates and services.
"I hardly used it before last year."
"With these big changes, if you usually ship with Priority Mail you might want to start considering other options. Once these new prices go into effect on July 13th, make sure to use our Rates Calculator to compare!"
Users express that the website doesn't effectively communicate the unique selling points (USPs) of the product, making it hard to understand why a customer should choose it over cheaper alternatives or competitors. This is a consistent theme throughout the comments.
"When I land on the site I think your only product is a hands free dog leash, which I can get at a fraction of the price next day delivery from Amazon."
"From your and some of the other comments here I take away that the target customer, the USP, the benefits of the products are not clearly communicated."
"I don’t see any clear USPS on your website. It’s not clear to me why people should buy from you instead of from The closest competitor."
Users are discussing the challenges of building an email list using popups and other methods without negatively impacting the user experience and brand perception. The core issue revolves around finding a balance between capturing email addresses and avoiding the annoyance often associated with aggressive or poorly designed signup forms.
"I find them to be really annoying too but if they didn’t work people wouldn’t have them on their site…mine hasn’t been very successful so I am trying different triggers and timing to see if I can get a better reaction because all of the advice out there is that they work and we should be using them…"
"Starting my first store and everyone says 'build your email list' but like every popup I see online makes me want to immediately close the tab, I think the ones I've seen so far are very annoying and instead of inviting someone to click on them, they simply ruin the user experience."
Users are expressing concerns about the fluctuating and often high costs of shipping, especially for international orders. The discussion highlights the impact of shipping costs on profit margins and the challenges of finding cost-effective shipping solutions.
"Luckily I got in touch with a small mom & pop shipping company who handles usps/fedex and they reduced my shipping cost by 50-70% so they are my GOAT and have helped with margins a lot. Now I can offer free shipping which brings in customer or in some cases reduce price of item but make $1-2 on shipping by charging customer"
"It’s been okay, sales not going up atleast so i started looking into how i can reduce my expense/cost. In my case shipping cost was always something I had an issue with. Shipping to US was meh/bad but shipping to Europe was absolutely horrible."
Users are discussing the challenges of implementing and managing product bundles and effective cross-selling strategies within their e-commerce platforms. This includes the technical aspects of creating bundles, displaying them effectively, and integrating them with product variations like color options.
"I’m wondering how to add bundles but my hero product has colour options so could get tricky!"
"Do you list the bundles as their own products on your store or do you have a way of creating the bundles with an app or something like a ‘people also buy’. "
"I see a lot of stores including the one i'm working on, make the mistake of not doing enough cross selling."
"It makes my job harder because I have less to work with, literally. I can't do bundles or special deals, basically all I have to use is discounts/sales."
Users are experiencing challenges with the workload associated with creating, editing, and promoting content, often as a one-person team, leading to exhaustion and poor results. The discussion centers on the effort required and the lack of significant returns.
"I feel this so much. Being a one-person content team is *a lot...* shooting, editing, doing voiceovers, writing captions, and then still hoping it performs is exhausting!"
"Totally feel you on this. I used to do everything myself too writing, editing, voiceovers and it’s exhausting when the results don’t match the effort."
Users discuss the challenges of accurately calculating real-time net profit per item, especially when variable costs fluctuate frequently. This includes issues like changing product costs, storage fees, employee time allocation, and the inability to have real-time profit metrics.
"At a certain point, it's not feasible to keep a real time net profit figure per item."
"How do you factor in variable costs? You would have to be changing the cost values for every product on a regular basis."
"That granularity could be useful for some businesses or smaller catalogs. This doesn't mean the net profit per item is never looked at, it just isn't on a real time basis or used for this 'net profit per ad spend' metric."
Users are expressing frustration with the moderation style of the Dying Light subreddit, specifically the perceived excessive censorship of mature content, humor, and discussion related to the game's mature themes. They feel the moderation is overly strict and inconsistent with the game's 'M' rating, leading to a less enjoyable and less free environment for fans.
"Fucking hate the pearl clutching by some mods."
"Reddit has really turned into quite the pussy over the last year. Prude af too."
"Look like the mods want this sub to be official, most of the mods claim to be from Techland. We need a new Dying Light sub to go nuts freely..."
"People wanted to finally have something funny in this sub, after a drought of 'DL1 vs DL2' brainrot. But mods decided to power-trip"
Users express frustration with language learning exercises that require them to translate names or words that are identical in both the source and target languages. They feel these exercises are a waste of time and do not contribute to language acquisition.
"Even worse is when the word has the exact same spelling in English"
"Totally! In Italian they’ve done this multiple times with different names and I’m literally copying the names from what’s there. It’s a waste of time."
Users express frustration with the addition of background music and other sound effects in a language learning app, especially when it interferes with headset usage and lesson engagement. Some users are looking for ways to prevent their headphones from turning off while using the app. This discussion also touches on the perception of the app's development focus shifting away from core functionality.
"I also hate the character sound effects. I don’t need them groaning or yahoo-ing as I’m going."
"Okay this "music" is awful, but in general it would be nice to have the option to enable a very very silent "music" in the background of listening lessons, I often use Bluetooth headsets and a lot of them have this awful turn-on time of a few seconds where you hear nothing, always present when you do listening lessons."
"They keep adding the most useless features and effects that literally nobody asked for 😭"
"Same! I've just resigned myself to repeatedly tapping the speaker button to get the speech to start over. Just some signal to keep my headphones from going to sleep would be great. It doesn't need to be... this."
Users are frustrated with Duolingo's new auto-activation for XP boosts, which forces them to avoid using the app unless they have a large block of time available. This leads to a decrease in overall app usage, as users are unable to engage in short learning sessions when they have free moments.
"This automatic activation makes me avoid using the app unless I have enough time to sit down and use it properly, rather than squeezing in a lesson or two on the go when time permits."
"I keep opening and then closing the app because I don’t have time to fully use the 3x booster plus get the other quests done so they also become 3x boosters, etc."
Users are discussing completing monthly challenges in Duolingo and expressing a desire to see their past performance data and percentile rankings for each month's challenge.
"I finished mine on 14th, its weird it doesn't tell you the percentile."
"Am I able to go back and see how fast I did it? - no, when you look at the daily quests tab, the monthly quest only shows this"
The Reddit post and comments express widespread frustration with Duolingo's new energy system, which limits the number of lessons free users can complete. Users feel the system is designed to push them towards paid subscriptions by restricting access to learning content and introducing excessive ads. The discussion highlights user sentiment regarding the impact of these changes on the app's usability and the perceived shift from a free, accessible learning platform to a pay-to-play model.
"Now, the 25 point energy bar drains (literally after 2-3 lessons, not exaggerating) and you have to watch ads to recharge it, which get you 3 pts each. So even if you watch multiple ads it may not give you enough to even get through another lesson which is insane and frankly, infuriating."
"In short, it renders the app virtually unusable for free users by “punishing” you regardless of whether you get the a question right or wrong."
"Basically with full energy you can only make 3.9 lessons"
"They’re pitching this as an improvement but everyone knows full well it’s a move to intentionally worsen the experience and force people to get max just to make the app usable again."
Users are discussing their reliance on streaks in language learning apps and the implications of streak freezes. The conversation highlights confusion around the cost and mechanics of maintaining streaks, particularly the use of streak freezes and gems. Users express frustration with the lack of clarity around these features, and the overall gamification that can take precedence over actual learning.
"I wonder what's the record for extending a streak using streak freezes? Like I only have 5 streak freezes, but they let you buy more with gems right? How much do they cost?"
"How do you get 11 streak freezes?!"
"Do they cost more gems than you can earn by collecting the free chests?"
Users are expressing dissatisfaction with the quality of AI-generated content on language learning platforms. They point out issues like unnatural phrasing, oversimplified character personalities, and a general lack of human understanding of language nuances, especially regional dialects, resulting in a less effective and engaging learning experience.
"I'm also really annoyed at how the new AI stories and radio episodes have messed with and oversimplified the personalities of the characters (yes Lin is lazy, but Bea would NEVER say something as directly mean-spirited as "maybe you're not as useless as I thought")"
"The good is they generate a lot of new material. The bad is that the lessons are not that great."
"Honestly that's why I plan on leaving Duolingo once my subscription is up in a few months. If I knew Duolingo was going to turn into this I would have never subscribed. AI is not built to be a language learning app. I'd rather learn a language through speaking with living breathing people that can understand the complexities of context and regional dialect"
"The story itself is AI-generated, too. Look at the unnatural phrasing, like "It reviews, underlines, and explains everything" (it reviews and underlines what??) and "students gather around Lin. They all type on laptops" (if they're working individually on their laptops why are they "gathered around" her?) You can tell what it means, but it's not how a good writer would express it."
Users express frustration with the lack of detailed explanations for incorrect answers and the absence of explicit grammar rules within the Duolingo app. They find it difficult to learn and understand language concepts without these explanations.
"How are people supposed to understand how to properly speak and why they should speak that way if there’s no explanation? Anybody with a brain understands that you can’t learn a new language without understanding why it has to be written like that or spoken like that. This is very basic knowledge yet this is a major thing that Duolingo threw away. I’m not understanding."
"And no grammar rules whatsoever or verb conjugation."
"I was not able to understand because they never explained why something was past tense or what to look for. I was just expected to know how to spell these words in the past tense."
"They don’t even explain when you’re a paying customer with a family plan. Even the max explanations aren’t even good."
Users express dissatisfaction with language learning apps focusing on gamification and streaks over practical language skills. They feel the apps prioritize memorization and AI training over actual understanding and real-world application, leading to burnout and a lack of progress in practical language use.
"I’m at 850 days and I still don’t know how to say “I quit after two years” in Spanish."
"Duolingo just feels like I’m pedaling hard on a stationary bike and wondering why I’m not going anywhere."
"I want to actually understand what im learning not just memorize words and sentences..."
"The gamification of the app is cool and all for like the first month but its gotten old."
"every new feature is designed to get you to want to buy super, especially the flippin heart system. i hate that you can make mistakes to the point that you cant use the app for a whole day. really shows that their priority is not helping you learn a language"
Users express a need for tools to consolidate and review vocabulary and grammar learned through various resources alongside Duolingo, such as podcasts, books, and conversations.
"I kept hitting plateaus where it felt like I wasn't learning. I was just playing a game for points. I wasn't really being challenged by the exercises, just memorizing and repeating to get through the lessons."
"I probably spend 5 times the amount of time listening to podcast keeping track of words I did not understand, YouTube, and then I like to write things down cause it helps me, Duolingo helped get me started and now it guides me but I teach my self."
Users are having difficulty finding updated lists of dubstep remixes of popular songs, with search results often leading to outdated content. This involves challenges in discovering new remixes and accessing them easily.
"Whenever you type in on Google **'Dubstep Remixes of Popular Songs'**, you get a [13 year old post](https://www.reddit.com/r/dubstep/comments/vdhwj/the_best_dubstep_remixes_of_nondubstep_songs_here/) from r/dubstep as the top search result."
"Are you able to make a SoundCloud playlist with all of these?"
"And now that I think of it, not having his flip of Mac Miller - Weekend on this list is a damn crime."
"So I thought it was well overdue to make a 2025 updated version!"
The post and comments express frustration with the EDM community's tendency to 'cancel' artists for trivial reasons, often based on outdated information or taken-out-of-context remarks. Users feel that the community is overly focused on negativity and seeking out drama, particularly amplified by social media platforms like TikTok. This behavior detracts from the enjoyment of the music and the overall rave experience.
"I think dredging up old things artists have said to others through private messages or posted on FaceBook 10 years ago is lame."
"I love this community and the music, but once you realize that the people that make these comments have just fried their brains past the point of recovery you just stop giving them attention."
"And then you’ve got people in the comment section trying to cancel LSDREAM for following an influencer they don’t like, or being hypocrites about something Illenium said 10 years ago."
"Starting with cancel culture, it almost seems like people get off on canceling a DJ."
Users express annoyance with DJs frequently interrupting music with repetitive phrases like 'put your hands up,' counting down, and shouting location-specific greetings. This detracts from the music and desired experience.
"I listen for the immersion and the tough guy act behind the buttons is distracting."
"In 2018 at Bass Canyon my friends and I left a slander set after the 20th “THREE TWO ONE!” In a row after their set started."
"I personally like the MCing to a point. A hand full of times during a set is the sweet spot for me, but between every drop is annoying as fuck"
"Music cuts out, ONE! TWO! ONE TWO THREE FOUR! Lamest shit ever, that’s when I turn around."
"Slander drives me crazy with what they do on the mic. Constantly counting lmao"
"The entire set every 3-5 minutes buddy was like “yooooo torontooooo” “what’s up torontooooo” “torontooooooo” “yoooooooo” It was fucking ridiculous. I started doing it as well and everyone else in the crowd around us started catching on as well till we’re all laughing our asses off. Music was bunk anyways, but just them trying to hype the crowd by pointlessly yelling Toronto into the mic made it comedic. Like yeah man… i know what city I’m in thanks lol."
Users are discussing the availability and accessibility of water at concerts and festivals, with many expressing difficulty in finding water refill stations, especially at older events. This is contrasted with newer events that provide free water and encourage reusable water bottles.
"It seems to be a Seattle or WA state thing. Every bar/venue will have water. It’s usually some kind of water cooler type setup in the corner of the bar somewhere. Festivals are required to have drinking water as part of their permit which is usually some kind of filling station."
"I brought a refillable water bottle to warped tour all 8 years I went and had no issues with hydration. Some ppl are just not good at preparing for stuff lol"
The discussion revolves around the anxieties and uncertainties millennials face as they encounter adult responsibilities, particularly the emotional and logistical challenges of estate management, handling funerals, and being the 'adult' in critical situations. Users express feeling unprepared and overwhelmed by the weight of these duties.
"In 2023, my dad died. I am an only child. Key emphasis on child. lol Since he never remarried, it was all on me. He lived in another state and I was starting my junior year of college in two weeks. So that fall semester was spent hunting down all his affairs and estate management from hundreds of miles away. I was also employed part time. My boss and professors were all incredibly supportive but man that was the biggest slap in the face from life of "you're the adult now, kiddo.""
"Now that im approaching my 40s soon, im having this feeling of rising panic when i realize im going to start going to more funerals and might have to arrange some of them myself."
Users express frustration with the poor audio mixing in modern movies and TV shows, where dialogue is often too quiet compared to background music and sound effects, necessitating the use of subtitles. This creates an undesirable viewing experience for some users.
"The sound mix on shows is terrible honestly. The music or background noises are so loud and the dialogue is quiet so I just pop on subtitles."
"Anything made after 2010, the art of mixing dialogue is dead. With the exception of some network sitcoms and animated shows, almost every show and film has utterly inaudible dialogue. Subtitles are a necessity."
"If you can hear the main character(s) whispers among the explosions and screams of an armageddon happening in the background, we wouldn't need subtitles during (modern) movies and shows"
Users express difficulty understanding how others afford their lifestyles, and a desire to understand the factors contributing to financial success or struggle, as well as a lack of transparency around people's financial situations and the ability to compare them.
"I don't understand how other millennials are affording their lives...."
"I wish more people understood this instead of posting the same question over and over again lol. Unless this is that karma farming the kids talk about hahah"
Users express frustration with the rapid evolution of slang, new word meanings, and the widespread use of acronyms, especially in younger generations, leading to communication barriers and a feeling of being out of touch.
"Somebody replied to one of my comments on here with “that is so goated” and I’m just like “that’s nice deary”"
"My boomer gripe isn't necessarily new words, but everything being an acronym.. And then the assumption you know what they all are without really any context."
Users are seeking information about locations to sign a political petition. The discussion highlights the need for an easily accessible and up-to-date resource to find nearby signing events.
"How do I sign?"
"Where can I sign this?"
"Where do I sign?"
"If you know any events in Detroit that should have ballots, let me know!"
Users express frustration with the current system's lack of ease in finding and signing petitions for ballot initiatives, specifically the difficulty in locating where petitions are available to sign.
"I have a theory there might be someone at Royal Oak farmer’s market, but the biggest flaw with Michigan’s petition system is that it’s so hard to find one to sign!"
"How can I find a petition to sign? I had this problem with the abortion petition. I just happened to luck upon a lone guy in Northville who had a petition."
Users express frustration with the width and design of a main road in a vacation town, which they feel makes it difficult and less desirable to cross, impacting the walkability and pedestrian experience of the downtown area.
"7x the width of a car + a little extra is quite a jaunt just to cross the street in what's supposed to be a place where you want a lot of people to walk around and spend money."
"A pedestrian has to cross the equivalent distance of seven lanes which is incredibly unfriendly to pedestrians."
The discussion revolves around a bill requiring ICE officers to display clear identification. Users express frustration with the lack of transparency and accountability in law enforcement, specifically concerning the ability to identify officers during actions, including concerns about impersonation and abuse of power. This leads to a desire for mechanisms to track and report misconduct effectively.
"Badge number tied to an internal database is the logical conclusion. In today's climate, putting someone's name out in the public for sometimes having to enforce unpopular laws among some people is a valid reason for the purpose of privacy. Most officers don't want to put their families safety at risk, and my personal view is that's a valid reason to need public anonymity."
"Several people have been [charged with impersonating ICE agents](https://prospect.org/justice/2025-06-24-ice-impersonations-proliferate-agencys-undercover-tactics/) to demand money, solicit sexual favors, kidnap people, and terrorize already vulnerable communities. The murderer of Minnesota state lawmaker Melissa Hortman and her husband also [posed as a police officer](https://archive.is/hHyyt). [“The lines have blurred, not just between enforcement and abuse, but between officer and imposter,”](https://thehill.com/opinion/immigration/5366944-behind-the-mask-what-are-ice-agents-hiding/) leaving victims and bystanders alike uncertain how to act in these dubious situations."
"I love the idea, but question, why limit it to ICE? Unless you're like an under cover agent in deep cover I think all law enforcement agents of all kinds should be forced to give name and badge number upon request."
Users express frustration with the complexity of managing weapon abilities, especially in the context of multiple firing modes, elemental types, and other perks. The discussion highlights the challenge of keeping track of these features during gameplay, leading to feeling overwhelmed and a desire for simplified mechanics.
"But holy fucking shit my brain CANNOT keep track of constantly switching my handcannons firing mode to only shoot overcharged bullets and make sure my abilities are weaved in but not too much cuz then my overcharge runs out and also somehow go into prismatic in the middle of that dont forget to realize you have prismatic charged! And also your grenade! And also your melee! And also your orher mode!"
"It's very overwhelming."
"Honestly I wish things that had more than two options could give us a radial menu instead, I hate having to cycle through all three elements in the elemental guns."
Users are discussing the upcoming change to damage numbers in a game, and expressing their difficulty in quickly understanding and comparing damage output due to the large numbers currently displayed. They find it hard to gauge the effectiveness of different weapons and builds at a glance.
"Good. My dyslexic ass hasn't been able to tell how much damage I do at a glance for years."
"Legibility, big numbers being difficult for some to parse, dyslexic people. Take your pick really"
Users express interest in purchasing a shirt seen in a Reddit post but are unsure where to find it. The comments show a desire to know where to buy the shirt, indicating a pain point related to product discovery and e-commerce.
"Link to buy?"
"I would like to purchase one as well."
"Where does someone find these shirts?"
"Need this shirt"
"Where do I get one?!!?"
Users express frustration and difficulty in verifying information about the missing person case, including inconsistencies between initial reports and later findings, deletion of posts, and lack of trust in official sources. This highlights the challenges of information access and verification during sensitive investigations.
"Post was deleted by the OP"
"Idk whom to trust, neither police is to be trusted nor internet."
"OP of that post said that no note of any sort was found - the family looked and they didn't find any. Where did this note come from?"
"Her Family is searching for her like crazy on social media, and they've looked into her room for clues after so many days, even the local police didn't bother to check her room for this angle after 24 hrs?"
"can anyone send me orignal post link? The one which her relative shared"
Users express frustration with the spread of misinformation, propaganda, and biased narratives, particularly on social media platforms. They highlight the challenge of distinguishing between factual information and skewed perspectives, and the negative impact this has on societal discourse and understanding of events.
"I can't tell if he's being sarcastic or not but I am pretty sure half the people liking this genuinely believe in this bs."
"You see the people supporting his post and getting influenced now."
"saying it's "better" for a girl to be killed by her father than hypothetically harmed by a muslim guy based on speculation and hate is not only disgusting but dangerous. u do not get to justify murder with communal fearmongering."
"even the news channels are doing the same"
"This guy has conveniently chosen a screenshot from a music video, she was just in that video, just once. he is just propagating his propaganda against muslim by using a dead girl. it's a sickening thing to do, it's a sad reality which i see everywhere around me lately."
Users express frustration over the lack of transparency and accountability in road construction, highlighting issues like corruption, use of substandard materials, and political influence. The discussion revolves around the impracticality of tracking project details and holding those responsible accountable due to systemic corruption and the use of shell companies.
"Ironically, these companies have quality departments, but their role is undermined."
"Agar details share kardein toh public ko yeh pata chal jaayega na ki kitna paisa khaya hai..."
"These entities routinely bill for high-quality materials—bitumen, cement, TMT bars, etc.—but use low-grade alternatives to cut costs."
Users discuss challenges related to preserving and sharing a large collection of old family photos. This includes difficulties in digitizing photos, identifying interested parties, and storing physical albums. The user is concerned about discarding photos of historical value and the lack of interest from siblings.
"We spent many hours together looking through her albums while she was alive. Fortunately she had labeled most of the people in the pictures so that it was easy for me to help her recognize the people in the photographs."
"My grandma has THICK albums of photos that take up a lot of space (that I don't have)."
"There's a lot of time, labeling, and detail she put into these family photo albums."
"I'm sure half of them or more are deceased but it feels wrong for all of this to just be trashed and gone."
"I would ask this question over in r/Genealogy. There are plenty of historical societies that would want the pictures and could properly associate them in FamilySearch or Find-a-Grave."
"I realized that all the work that she had put into the albums had actually been for her even though at the time she was doing it, I imagine that she was thinking that she was creating these albums to be passed down."
Users express frustration with not knowing which documents to keep and for how long, leading to either excessive record keeping or the potential loss of important information. They are seeking clear guidelines and a system for document management.
"I sure try to keep on top of this stuff, but everything went haywire in the last six years. Constant health crisis, either me or hubby or pets, and I'm trying to cope with a mountain of paper that's built up."
"I struggled to know how long or what important documents to keep besides the very obvious ones. Sigh. I know I need to go through my boxes and boxes of paperwork."
Users express a need for a streamlined method to document, digitize, and potentially discard sentimental items to save space while preserving memories. They discuss the emotional challenges of decluttering mementos and the desire to retain access to these items in a digital format.
"I’m photographing my mementos and letting them go. I can always look at them digitally now."
"I am going to make a digital copy so I can toss the majority it afterwards. I started taking pictures of souvenirs, old artwork, etc and toss. For some reason, just having a picture of it helps me let go of most of the stuff. That way I can look at it if I want to but it’s not taking up space anymore."
Users are struggling with the process of downsizing their belongings to fit into a car, and planning how to best utilize the available space. This involves not only reducing the volume of items but also optimizing the packing process.
"I would figure out the exact amount of space in the vehicle and the boxes that will fit and then works on getting things to fit in those boxes."
"I got some great tips though so I’ll apply though and hopefully when/if I feel more comfortable later I can go into further detail. Thank you for your help."
Users express difficulty in decluttering and organizing paperwork due to the mental fatigue involved, especially when already tired or low on energy. This leads to feeling overwhelmed and avoiding the task.
"Sorting through paperwork, putting stuff through the scanner or the shredder while having a rerun of Dr. House on in the background."
"I don’t know why but sorting through paperwork gives me way too much overwhelm when I’m already tired. I have to save that one for last haha."
Users are overwhelmed with the decluttering process when moving. The suggested 'curation' method encourages keeping only the best items, but users still need help with the logistical challenges of sorting, tracking what is kept, and managing items for donation or disposal.
"I want to clear space without feeling like I’m ripping away pieces of myself. I want to declutter without spiraling. But I don’t know where to start."
"And when I say "value" I'm not talking monetary value, but value *to you*."
Users are discussing the challenges of decluttering children's rooms without causing emotional distress. They express a need for tools that help involve children in the process, teach them about letting go, and prevent feelings of loss or mistrust. The focus is on making decluttering a team effort and helping kids understand the 'why' behind it.
"I wish I had a solution to offer, but I’d advise against cleaning without their input at least in some way."
"I'm trying not to turn this into a traumatic core memory, but I also can’t live in Toymageddon forever."
Users are discussing the positive impact of hiring decluttering and cleaning services. Several users express the difficulty in finding affordable and trustworthy help, and managing the ongoing maintenance of a decluttered home.
"We actually discussed that today! She's going to come every couple months to help us keep it manageable for only $50!"
"I've looked before - but any organizers around my area seem outrageous. I appreciate that they have skills and talent that I do not - but charging the same rates or higher than some therapists, accountants, etc. just seems unreal!"
The discussion revolves around men's experiences with women's reactions when they decline sexual advances, highlighting anger, insecurity, and other negative responses. The core issue is the difficulty in handling rejection, which can lead to emotional distress and relationship problems.
"I’m just spitballing from my experiences here but I feel like the reason SOME(well aware not all) women get offended when you turn down sex is because it makes them question their worth."
"Every single time I reject sex my ex would have a meltdown "are you cheating" "what's wrong with me" "are you not attracted to me" but If she's not in the mood I'm understanding and just drop it and move on without getting butt hurt about it but that's the expectation as a man."
"My ex didn't feel in the mood sometimes but I understood. If people don't want to do it, we just accept it and that's it. That's what a "normal" person would do ig."
"Typically, though if I reject sex from someone it's met with a pile of insecurities like "is it cause I'm ugly?" "What's wrong with me?", etc."
Users express frustration with the challenges of meeting single, compatible individuals in social settings, with a focus on the difficulty of finding people with similar interests and intentions for dating or companionship outside of dating apps. This includes difficulty finding people who are single and share similar interests in social events or activities.
"I live in CA too, and also try to go out solo most weekends for shows and hobbies. I keep pretty busy doing things I enjoy and care about, but it all just feels empty with no one to share them with."
"but i am serious when i say: i NEVER meet other single young women out & about also exploring and giving off open vibes to meeting people. just lots of couples, older folks, families."
Users express frustration with an imbalance in effort and initiative in dating, particularly concerning planning dates, initiating conversations, and the expectation that one partner will always take the lead.
"Girls will say things like "I'm a yapper" or "i love a good conversation" but often I feel like im carrying the convo."
"Many women expect men to have a ready-made itinerary for *every* date without providing any input. Planning all the dates gets tiring, and it would grind my gears to constantly do this just to get stood up or ghosted."
"I find it a turn off when a woman tells me upfront that I have to do all the planning for dates."
Users discuss the challenges of modern dating, particularly on apps, where women often face superficial interactions and a lack of genuine interest, while men may struggle to gain any traction. The core issue revolves around the disconnect between the desire for meaningful relationships and the prevalence of casual encounters or objectification.
"People wanting to have sex with you is NOT the same as dating. Finding someone who GENUINELY wants to date, is very difficult as a lady."
"Men don't see me. They see my face and body and what I represent to their ego. They have a projection or narrative or fantasy of me and when I go off script, they crash tf out."
"So many guys will say exactly what a girl wants to hear and pretend they want the same thing, then second they get what they were actually looking for they dip, OR if they don’t get what they want their mask comes off and they dip. It just sucks."
"It’s very easy to find someone who wants to have sex with you, it’s very hard to find someone you are compatible with, have chemistry and they respect you and see you as a person."
Users express frustration with the current state of dating apps, citing issues with fake profiles, bots, and the over-monetization of the platforms, rendering them ineffective for genuine connections.
"Dating apps seem to have been taken over by trolls and scammers and so over monetized by the corporations that own them that they have become worse than useless for 90% of men ( and apparently most women too)"
"I stopped using bumble and tinder because of all the scammers and bots"